Mr. Commitment Phobic

Mr. Commitment Phobic oh how funny you are. He was married once and then after dating another girl for a short time he blinked and she was living with him. Well at least he was honest from the start about what he was looking for. He said he was just looking to hang out and just "date" girls. I appreciated his honesty, but I still got sucked in by how fun he sounded. We talked for hours every night...about all subjects imaginable.

We decided to meet at a coffee shop downtown. Just a cup of coffee if we didn't hit it off in person and if we did a fun day in the city together. At first site he looked like your average Joe in the coffee shop. He was wearing a sweatshirt with worn jeans and he was bald. (new to me) But when he stood up to hug me I felt oddly comfortable. We ended up talking for a bit and then decided to walk around town heading to pikes place market. We enjoyed a nice dinner at the market and then decided to take our teasing and joking to the next level...humility. We went to Gameworks where he decided he would try and show off. DENIED. I ended up beating him at every game which drove him crazy. Finally our night got a little more playful, bets....a kiss for the winner etc. We had fun... and I understood that he was just trying to date and he wanted to commitment. So I showed him no commitment and left...and his mouth was left wide open because he was shocked that I was a girl who listened giving him exactly what he wanted. We were looking for different things,but we decided to stay friends. He enjoyed my dating stories and I really enjoyed his advice that went along with my stories. Glad I made a new friend.

Mr. Drama

So I heard about a free dating website and thought I would give it a try. I started talking to one guy who seemed great.. and will call him "Mr. Drama."

Mr. Drama said he had 2 children and was very active with them. He seemed like a doting father that had a lot to offer. He had his own business and enjoyed that because he had more time at home with his children.

We decided to meet for dinner at a sushi place in town. When I showed up he was a little shorter than what I thought, but I could deal. The best part is he seemed so normal. And what I mean by normal is easy on the eyes. He was attractive, wore a colored button up top, jeans and had great manners. Its interesting how fast our happy "getting to know you conversation" turned. I asked him about his kids and he started tearing up. He started to tell me about a crazy, made for TV drama story that I could not relate to. I'm not a bitch I felt bad for him, but when the bottom line was he was fighting for custody and then after that was planning on placing a protection order against their mom..... I saw my first RED FLAG! I know that everyone comes with baggage and I know I had my own, but that was way too much for me.

I made a rule that night, if I didn't like how the date was going I would pay for the date. And I was very persist ant that night when the check came. I didn't want to feel like I owed this guy anything. It would also be nice to see if the guy would easily except or fight for the check. This guy put up a fight, but after his sad story which included the sad financial part of going through courts how could I let him.

Afterward he called and told me that what he liked about me was that I was the "mom type" and the "wife type." That got me thinking. Yes I think I am both, but for a guy to talk that seriously so soon didn't seem healthy and I did feel the sudden creepiness. After that I lied and told him I was too busy to date and that I wasn't ready. He called a few weeks later and talked about us being friends and having play dates together, but it just all seemed so creepy. I decided to follow my instincts.

So farewell to Mr. Drama.

Putting myself out there

Background
I feel like I am ready more than ever to start dating. I have my life where I want it and I'd like to find my other half. Someone I can share my life with and one day start a family with.

All my friends are married with children, which makes it really hard for me because when I'm ready to go out, my friends need to put time in with their kids and husband. I am so happy that my friends have such healthy and beautiful families...but I want that too. I once had that picture perfect lifestyle. The handsome fiance, big home, fun job, and a wonderful child. Unfortunately after 4 1/2 years of pretending everything was perfect, reality came crashing down, or maybe I just opened my eyes. I realized my finance was not respectful and we were setting a horrible example to our child. We loved each other, but trying to make it work just didn't seem realistic.


Am I asking too much?
My dream guy seems simple...polite, optimistic, caring, and humble. Finding the guy seemed so easy, but then I remembered...I can find my dream guy, but I have to be his dream girl in order to make this work. I feel like I have my life together and I'm what you could call a "catch", but obviously I'm still on the market.


Internet Dating
When I decided to put myself out there I looked around and realized I didn't know where to start looking for a date. In school I was surrounded by men, but I didn't think it was smart to date a guy I worked with. So I decided to try Internet dating. And this is wear my blogging will start...each guy seemed like they all came with a "interesting" story. I want to share my ups and downs of everyone I have come across.